“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment.”  – Rumi

This quote inspired me to go on…

Sell your resentments and buy forgiveness.

Sell your hatred and buy love.

Sell your glee and buy humility.

Sell your anger and buy compassion.

Sell your loneliness and buy connection.

Sell your meanness and buy kindness.

Sell your lack and buy generosity.

Continue on with your own  ideas  for this inspirational quote…

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

This is an Inspirational Poem that talks about Living a passionate life.

WITH PASSION

With passion pray.

With passion work.

With passion make love.

With passion eat and drink and dance and play.

Why look like a dead fish

in this Ocean of God?

Written by Rumi

This inspirational poems inspires me to be more passionate in my life, to fully enjoy and engage with life more.

I fun way to engage with life and share your passion is to take

the 21 Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge.

I found this challenge to be exhilarating and uplifting.

If you have not taken the challenge yet, Sign up now!

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

This is an Inspirational Poem that talks about a Relationship Booster and the Importance of communication.

Relationship Booster

Here is a relationship booster

that is guaranteed to work:

Every time your spouse or lover says something stupid

make your eyes light up as if you

you just heard something

brilliant.

This poem was originally written by Rumi.

The important message is to really listen to others.

Be interested. Everyone likes to feel people are interested in us.

To show that you are listening and interested is to take

the 21 Day “I AM  a Gift to the World!” Challenge.

This is an opportunity to surprise people in your life by acknowledging that they ARE a Gift to the world.

This a fun 7 part challange that can help you see the world differently.

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

This is an Inspirational Poem that talks about what to do when you see signs of stress.

I Might Act Serious

If God  would stop telling jokes,

I might act

serious.

BY Tukaram (c.1608-16490

To me this talks about:

Seeing the humor all around you.

Stop taking your self so seriously.

Read more Inspirational Poems.

Laugh More.

Focus more on Being a Gift to the world.

Take the 21 Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge.

This is a fun and creative and uplifting challenge that I believe you will enjoy.

Laugh more.

See more Gifts in your world!

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

This is an Inspirational Poem that talks about seeing your own greatness and seeing the greatness of others.

If God Invited You To A  Party?

If God invited you to a party and said,

“Everyone in the ballroom tonight will be my special guest,”

how would you treat them when you arrived?

Indeed,indeed!

And Hafiz knows that there is no one

in this world who is not standing upon

His jeweled dance floor.

By Hafiz

This Inspirational Poem is interesting isn’t it?

Would it not be great to always see yourself and others as a special gift.

I want to personally invite you to  experience yourself as a gift to the world and to see others as gifts in your world.

This is a seven part challenge that can transform your world and how you see yourself and others.

Please take The 21 Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

This is an Inspirational Poem that talks of Abundance and Prosperity

Lousy At Math

Once a group of thieves stole a rare diamond

larger than two goose eggs.

Its value could have easily brought three thousand horses

and three thousand acres of the most

fertile land in Shiraz.

The thieves got drunk that night to celebrate their great haul,

but during the course of the evening the effects of the liquor,

and their mistrust of each other grew

to such an extent.

they decided to divide the stone into pieces.

Of course then the Priceless became lost.

Most everyone is lousy at math and does that to God-

dissects the Indivisible One,

by thinking,by saying,

“This is my Beloved, he looks like this and acts like that,

how could that moron over there

really

be

God?”

By Hafiz

It is hard to see God or Goodness in everyone, isn’t it? This Inspirational Poem tells a story about abundance and prosperity and the loss of it.

A fun way to experience your own greatness is signing up for The  21 Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge

This is a fun challenge to see your own gifts and to recognize the gifts of others. Its Free! It’s Fun!

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

So  now that you are calmed down,don’t escalate it any further.

You have taken your break from it and feel calm?

The next  anger management technique is that you both must agree to work it out. You show willingness to communicate by facing each other, preferable sitting down  and looking eye-to-eye to each other and saying “Yes, let’s work this out.” or” Let’s talk about it.”

Then you try to hear each person’s point-of-view. It is best  at this time to use ‘ I-statements‘.

An I-statement goes like this:

I feel ______________________

when ______________________

because ____________________.

And what I would like instead would be _______.(This last sentence can be optional.)

Here is an example- I feel angry when you drive over the speed limit because it feels unsafe to me. What I would like is that you would drive the speed limit .

Communication skills is also about listening skills and listening is just as important as talking. Part of good listening listening skills is repeating back what you heard the other person say, because as you know, information goes in our brains, we translate it to our language and it may not be what the person was really trying to say. You want to make sure that you understand what the other person is saying by repeating back what they said. For example, ” I heard you say_______” and then they will either say yes or no, “what I am really saying is this.” So you want to  spend time to just be clear on the issue.

Once you are clear on the issue, it is really important to understand that person’s point of view. Ask questions about what they say for clarification and understanding.  Try to put your own feelings and thoughts about yourself  aside, and just try to understand them. Because you also want them to understand your point of view. So then you switch, The other person says what is going on for them  and the other person listens.  Then you ask questions to understand their point, you re-state what you hear.

Once you are clear on both sides, either a natural solution will come out of that, or you brainstorm trying to think up different ideas that can solve the problem. And you choose solutions that are win-win solutions so that both people feel good about the solution. It is going to be a good solution when both people get something that they want from a solution. And then you just decide how you are going to do that, who is going to do what.

An important piece of communicating and you are trying to work it out  is to set a time limit to this discussion. So when you’re setting a time to discuss the problem, you want to set a time limit of 20 to 30 minutes.  One extension is OK, if both parties agree. And if it doesn’t get resolved, that’s okay.  Set another time for another day to continue it, until there’s a peaceful resolution to the issue or problem.

I also want to recommend a report to get called  “The Three Deadly Mistakes That Cause Stress, Overwhelm and Burn out.”

This report was created by my good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree,.

This report  will help you with some of the underlying causes to your anger by helping you deal with the causes that cause stress, burn out, and overwhelm.

I hope you  find it useful.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

It could be a form of depression or an illness of some sort or a sleep disorder.  I recommend you see a doctor for a check up and talk about your sleeping. Doctors say an adult need about seven to eight hours of sleep per night, as an average.

Are you getting enough sleep?   Do you have trouble falling asleep?

To help with falling asleep and stress relief: I recommend taking slow, deep breaths, watching the breath come in and out, or do some slow yoga poses before going to bed, or try progressive relaxation techniques.

The progressive relaxation technique involves taking some slow, deep deep breaths at the beginning and then start with your feet.

You tighten your feet and then relax and release and tensions or tightness.and moving up your body to different muscle groups.  It’s important not to tighten anywhere  that you feel a pain.  This is a painless technique.

Why is it important to tighten the muscles, it’s so  your muscles can remember how it feels to relax.  You may have been holding tension and tightness so much that they forget how to let go, so this  helps that process.  This also helps you fall asleep because this gives your mind something to focus on and and helps your muscles to relax. You fall asleep easier when your muscles are relaxed.

You can do this lying down in bed or sitting up in a chair.

Start with your feet, you tighten and relax.

Then you move up to your calves, tighten, relax.

Then your thighs, tighten, relax.

Then your buttocks, stomach, and lower back, tighten, relax.

Moving up to your upper chest and back, tighten relax.

Nextyour hands and fingers put in a fist and tighten, relax, and open.

Up to your forearms, tighten, relax.

Up to your upper arms, tighten, relax.

Now your neck and shoulders.  Be careful here.   You don’t want to create any pain, tighten, relax.

Then your jaw,tighten and release.

Then your whole face.  You scrunch up tight and then relax and let it become soft.

You then you go back down the body again to your feet, tightening all the different muscle groups.  I like to finish by scanning my body for any tightness I may still have.  Imagine breathing into those places for deeper relaxation.

Or you can continue tightening and relaxing up and down the body until you fall asleep.

I also recommend listening to soft, soothing music as you prepare bed and sleep.

I love the Echoes of the Heart CD created by my good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree.

This is Native American Flute Music that brings balance and harmony as you listen to it. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

Disclaimer:
The information on this website is for educational purposes only.  It does not replace information or recommendations from your own physician or other health care provider.  This site does not advocate medical or other health-related self-care, and encourages you to obtain advice from your own personal physician or other health care provider.

This web site is not intended to replace medical, financial, legal, or any other professional advice.  Please use your own good judgment and consult with your own professionals before applying any ideas found within this website.

Some simple ways to practice presence are:

1.  Take slow, deep breaths and feel your breath move in and out as your chest rises and falls.  Feel the warmth  of your breath as you breathe in through your nostrils.

2.  Take a walk in nature and smell the flowers.  Notice what’s growing, what’s in bloom, the colors, the smells, the sounds, the animals and bugs.  Notice the details around you.

3.  Touch your hands lightly and experience the energy around your hands.

4.  Become more in tune to your inner thoughts and feelings by spending time listening to your thoughts and feelings while  maintaining awareness of  being in your body.  It’s easier to practice presence and to pay attention if you are alone.  There are less distractions so you can really focus just on you and the moment.

I often feel most alive and most connected to myself and my environment when I am out in nature.  I seem to slow down and really breathe in the life that surrounds me.  Being  alone also helps you to really hear yourself, how you talk to  yourself, how you  feel and what your true dreams for yourself  are.

If I have a question I need answered, walking alone in nature is the best way for me to hear my answers.  I will set an intention for my walk with stating the question I want an answered to.  The answer will usually come to me, after I have let go of forcing an answer, that is.  Spending time alone in nature is a healing practice that I recommend you do daily, if you can.  This can help you be more in alignment with nature and yourself.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

P. S. I recommend you buy  The Four Brothers DVD to help you understand nature and nature’s messages. Nature is talking to you.  Are you hearing the messsages ?

This DVD will help you see the answers to your questions.  The DVD was created by my good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree based on Native American wisdom.

She asks that you sit down by yourself  and honestly and lovingly read out loud these 12  covenants:

“I hereby covenant with the Holy Spirit for my life, and  I will do nothing to preserve my life; my life is the life of the spirit.

I covenant with the Holy Spirit for my health, and I will do nothing to preserve my health; my health is the health of the Spirit.

I covenant with the Spirit for my strength, and I will do nothing for my strength; my strength is the strength of the Spirit.

I covenant with Spirit for my support, and I will do nothing for my support;  my support is the providence of the Spirit.

I covenant with the Spirit for my defense, and I will do nothing for my defense; my defense is the protection of the Holy Spirit.

I covenant with the Spirit for my mind in its perfect  thinking, and I will do nothing for my thoughts; my mind is the mind of the Spirit.

I covenant with the Spirit for my right speech, and I will do nothing for my speech; my speech is the voice of the Spirit.

I will do nothing to fix, or record, or write my Truth unto the earth, for my record is the record of the Holy Spirit. I say, as Job said, My witness is in the heavens, and my record is on high.

I covenant for my  joyous song of  life, and will  do nothing to be joyful; my joy is the joy of the Spirit.

I covenant with the Spirit for my demonstrations of efficiency and skill in  rightly doing all things, and I will do nothing to protect myself. My efficiency is the working skill of the Holy Spirit,  according to the words of Jesus Christ, who said, “The words that I speak unto you I speak not of  myself, but the Father that dwelleth in me, he doeth the works.”

I covenant for my judgement in its beauty, and the beauty of judgment; and I will do nothing to make myself greatly good in judgment; for the Spirit is my judgement.

I covenant with the Holy Spirit for my love, and  will do nothing to make myself loving or beloved, for all is the Holy Spirit now acting with irresistible goodness through me.”

After  reading the 12 covenants it’s good to follow up by saying the following affirmation as recommended by Emma Curtis Hopkins.

“I do believe that my God is now working with me and through me and by me, to make me omnipotent, omnipresent, and omniscient. I have faith in God. I have the faith of God.”

I recommend you do this practice daily until my next post on Emma’s daily  practices.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

1.  The Law of Cause and Effect: Every action has a cause and effect.  This is about karma. What you give out, is what you get back, eventually.  A favorite quote of mine is,”If something’s happening to you that you don’t like, stop doing it to others, by Jey Rinpoche (1357 – 1419).  This sums up the law of cause and effect beautifully and makes it immediate into your life.

2. The Law of Attraction: I attract to my life what I believe and feel to be true.  You know what you truly believe based on  the results you are seeing  in your life.  Our beliefs can be positive or negative, and you see those results in your life.

3.  The Law of Attention: Whatever you put your attention on will eventually manifest.  The more attention, the faster the results.

4. The Law of Reciprocity: This law is about giving to others first what we want for ourselves.  Example: If you want love, give love.  If you want money, give money away.  If you want peace, give peace.

5.  The Law of Mental Equivalence: We can manifest in our lives what we feel comfortable with.  What can you receive easily and naturally?  Is it $10,000?  20,000?  50,000?  100,000?  1M?  10M? 100M?  What’s your comfort zone?  That is what your mental equivalency is and that  is what you are going to attract  into your life.

These are some laws to manifest prosperity or whatever you want in your life.  May you live long and be prosperous.

To give to others, I recommend signing up for the 21 Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge, which was created by my good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree.

This is an opportunity to experience giving and to feel prosperous  from giving first.  I hope you do it.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

To answer this question, do not look at where you can get a job to make money, unless you need to earn money now.  This is a temporary solution.  Instead, look for what lights you up or excites you.  Look at areas in your life when you are so interested in what you are doing, you really lose track of time.  Notice what makes you smile when you talk.

To help you on this process, there are some things you can do. Please know, though, that sometimes this can take time and other times it can be instantaneous.  But for the most part, this is a process that takes some time.

So what can you do?

1.  You can make a list of the 100 things you love to do.  If that’s too much to start with, try 10, and keep adding to it.

2.  Ask for feedback from friends and family about what they see as your skills and abilities and what you seem to enjoy.

3.  Take career assessments online.

4.  Take a class to help you discover your passion.

5.  Find a coach or a counselor if you want more help and guidance.  Start pulling all this information you’ve been gathering together and synthesize it to help you come up with a strategy and a plan to move forward with a new career for the next five to 10 years, or it could be longer.

To help you with your discovery, focus on things that you love and are good at.    Don’t focus on areas you’re good at, but don’t love or enjoy.  This will not sustain you.

To help you in this process, I suggest The Journey (Babamabizwin) ebook created by my good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree.

This book is a journey of self-discovery to help you on your way.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

If you are feeling bored because you feel lonely, then start engaging with others more.

Here some ideas to engage with others:

1. Talk to people at work.  Find out what they’re doing, what they like to do for fun.

2. Try classes around movement and exercise. Some examples- yoga, ecstatic dance or 5 Rhythms dance , Nia or any number of classes like that.  Try different ones, see which ones you like and where  people are friendly to you.  Then commit to going to these classes to build relationships and  improving your health.

3. Volunteer at an organizations.  Helping others always helps us feel good about ourselves and can help you feel more connected.

4. Maybe you’re confused about  your relationships, then try going  to Al-Anon  meetings to see if you can learn about relationships through Al-Anon.  Al-Anon is for friends and families of alcoholics and addicts, and there are people to connect to there at many meetings.

5. Try new hobbies, maybe a knitting club or a book club, or a painting class, or learn to sail.  The possibilities are endless.

6. Try going to church or a meditation center.  If you find one you like, start taking classes there, or volunteer there.

7. Call up friends and meet for coffee or lunch or dinner.  Maybe invite a few friends to your home and cook for them.

8.  Invite your friends over to play board or card games or some other fun activity.

9.  Think of something you like to talk about. Create a group and invite friends to come and share their knowledge on this topic.

10.  What are some other ideas you can think of to add to your list?  And then just start doing some.

It’s important to step away from the computer and the TV and engage with other people.  If you keep trying different ideas, you will find some great places to engage in conversations with people.  You have value and gifts of your very own to share, so start sharing them.

One way to begin to engage with others anonymously is to take the 21 Day “I AM a Gift To The World!” Challenge.

This is a seven part challenge that was created by my good friends Robert and Terri TallTree, it’s a fun challenge to begin to connect with others, and to feel and see how valuable you really are. There is also a place to talk about the  challenge.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

There are four different individuation processes in these self esteem activities:

1. The first individuation process usually occurs in your 30′s or 40′s. You  are separating from your parents’ beliefs.  You start claiming what you want to keep from your parents and what you want to let go of, that no longer works for you.  You start feeling more comfortable in your own skin and not feeling so fragmented. This is an internal process focusing on beliefs and values.

2. If you are married there is a time in that relationship where you must individuate from each other.  This can help bring  a more fulfilling relationship.  You see and accept the differences and have tools to communicate your differences that will eventually bring you closer together.

3. You may also individuate from society.  You don’t worry about what people think of you and you don’t compromise yourself just to please them.  You stop measuring yourself and comparing yourself to others.  You listen to your own unique inner voice to guide and direct your decisions. You decide what you believe to be true and what you value irrespective of Societies beliefs.

4. There may also be an individuation from church.  This is not necessarily about leaving the church, though you may for a while or longer or forever from your particular church.  What you does happen is you question what you believe based on what others have told you to believe about church and God  and you decide what you  believe.  This can be an ongoing process because as you grow and change, your unde.standing grows and changes. Your views become more encompassing,  and your God or spirit or whatever you call this greater energy also becomes bigger.  To me this is lifelong process of self discovery and becoming the individual you are meant to become.

P.S. I recommend the Four Brothers DVD to explore how nature can speak to you to help you understand yourself and your purpose more.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com

Let’s talk about trying to hide our crabbiness, another word for crabbiness is irritability. You may not be feeling satisfied or you may want things to be different.

Nonverbal communication of impatience and irritability can be shown in many ways:

-Tapping fingers or objects

-Tapping your foot

-A huff or a sigh

-Rolling your eyes up

-Looking at your watch or the clock

-Your voice may rise

-You may pace

-You may cut people off in conversations or you cut cars off while driving.

These are just some possible examples of nonverbal communication. So it is very difficult to hide your true feelings from others. There are exceptions, but I’m focused here on most of the population.

So how do you try to hide your crabbiness or irritability?  If you don’t know, the people closest to you probably know.

The most important thing is to work on being congruent. Having your insides match your outsides. Find ways is to be more at peace with yourself and your world.

If this feels too difficult, I suggest you get a medical exam to rule out any medical cause and/or to get medical treatment. You could be  depressed and medication could really help you. Chronic irritability is a sign of depression.

Other things you can do is increase your exercise, increase relaxation activities.  Do you take time to relax by meditation, yoga, contemplation, a hobby, or other relaxation techniques? Ask yourself if you are you getting enough sleep? Are you getting enough positive social contact and nurturance?  How’s your sex life? Are you having regular, mutually satisfying sexual intimacy? Are you giving too much? Do you have good boundaries? Do you have good communication skills to be able to ask for what you want and say no to things you don’t want?

I’ve listed a few ideas. Keep searching for what will work best for you.

I want to recommend The Four Brothers DVD to help you start or increase your ability to understand the messages in nature that are answering the questions you have for your life. The more able you can understand subtle messages outside yourself, the more able you will be able to understand your own subtle messages from yourself to yourself. My good friends, Robert and Terri TallTree created this program based on Native American wisdom that they share with you through a conversation that they recorded. I hope you enjoy it.

To Your Highest Good,

Laura Meehan, MA

Integrative Counselor and Coach

Founder and Liberator of Allowyourlightoshine.com

Ambassador of Cure for Boredom on Howtoliveonpurpose.com